Connecting to people is meaningless. There are no people, only bodies, and bodies come and go.
The only connection that lasts is connection between Souls.
What you are is infinitely more than this body, but it can be fully expressed through the body, if you make room for it.
When you die, you get to find out how big you are. Wouldn’t you rather find out before you die, while you still have a body to express that vastness?
The dead, as well as the living, are depending on you.